The Story Behind Dear Mad’m
Stella Walthall Patterson
October 14, 1866 –
December 23, 1955
By Judy Bushy
This weekend we took a drive down Highway 96 just to enjoy the sunshine on the River, and the forest and blue skies. We came to the pullout near where Stella Patterson had her cabin and stopped to enjoy the view.
At the time of her eightieth birthday, Stella W. Patterson was faced with a dilemma. Her decision involved when a person is OLD and how she wanted to live her “senior years.” Stella made a surprising decision and became a hero to seniors who have since loved her book, Dear Mad’m.
Stella was born October 14, 1866 in the bustling city of San Francisco. Stella enjoyed the urban opportunities for social and cultural life, but after the earthquake of 1906 she left the city.
At the time of her 80th birthday, while visiting friends in Arcata on the northern coast, she was invited to live with relatives eager to do for her and take care of her in “declining years.” When a doctor told her that she had “young legs” it set her thoughts in a different direction. She owned a cabin on a mining claim in the wilds of Clear Creek near the friendly little town of Happy Camp, on the Klamath River. She decided to give living in that little cabin a try for a year. She wrote to the caretaker and set off for Willow Creek where she rode with the mail delivery up to the mailbox on Highway 96 below the cabin.
The title of her memoir of life on the Klamath came from, perhaps a senior moment, when Fred, the caretaker arrived, and she’d forgotten his name. In her correspondence she had said, “Dear Sir,” so she fell back upon that salutation. Fred replied, “Dear Mad’m,” and thus the nickname, which was later to become the title of the book, began.
The book tells of her life in that solitary and somewhat primitive cabin in its beautiful surroundings. She lived alone there with her dog, Vickie, and it turned out she had many adventures.
While Stella Patterson still traveled some, her delight was to return to her little cabin on the Klamath. She loved to garden and put up jams and jellies. She sent the memoir of the year she moved to the cabin to agents, critics, and finally a New York publisher who edited it. She called it “slashing,” her story. In the fall of 1955 she moved to an efficient little travel trailer, near Everett and Thelma (who had been like a daughter to her) in Redding. Her life drew to a close there in December 23, 1955 at the age of 89. It was just two weeks before Dear Mad’m was to be published, January 6, 1956.
The book had far reaching effects. It became a popular book club selection. Three ladies from Chicago retired from the Telephone Company and came to live near Happy Camp, because of reading her story. They enjoyed gardening and artistic endeavors and were active in the community. They were loved and appreciated in the community although they too are gone now. When Highway 96 was improved and straightened (Yes, it is possible that there were more curves and corners!) the road went right through her cabin, which was moved out of the way.
Naturegraph, a local Happy Camp publisher, kept the book in print since that time, for which we are grateful. Stella was a hero of sorts to persons of mature years, who still have more years to appreciate life and blessings. It’s a good book to read to remind a person of all the wonderful reasons we love life on the lovely wild Klamath River at the top of California.
What a beautiful story. I have some family living there and have been there a few times. It really is a beautiful little place. I love going there.
Thanks for this….it is my all time favoriate book. Any chance of a few images of the area?
Thanks Christopher Fry! You can see some images from the area at Happy Camp, CA Chamber of Commerce Facebook page, and the Dear mad’m Symposium that we celebrate at wwwfriendsofdearmadm.com. Next Dear mad’m symposium will be in Yreka instead of Happy Camp! Yreka is on Interstate 5, at the Siskiyou County Hidtorical Museum October 15th, 2016.
Is her birthday 14 April, as stated in her book, otherwise 14 October?
That’s what I want to know too! Loved loved LOVED the book and just wonder about the birthday confusion?!
Land of the Grasshopper Song is even better
This is another book about some ladies living along the Klamath. Stella Patterson knew them “back in the day,” but their book was published after hers.
It is a good read as well, to state one is better than the other is like debating apple pie over peach pie 🙂
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book this summer… It was given to me by my grandmother who had enjoyed the book as well… 🙂 Hopefully I can visit my mom in Happy Camp and take a drive there in the future… 🙂 Thank you Judy for the great background story… we couldn’t get from the book!
Thank you Simone!! We sure to miss your mother in Happy Camp!! The Dear Mad’m Days was her idea, and here we are having this years Dear mad’m Symposium at the Siskiyou Historical Museum in Yreka Saturday, October 15, 2016! Glad you enjoyed the book!! Best wishes, Judy
I have read the book twice…who was she? what of her earlier life ?Was she a writer ? How many children did she have ? Why leave them ? What became of everyone? I cant seem to find answers on the web….
Dear Sue, you will find information at http://www.friendsofdearmadm.com or the facebook page. Dear Mad’m Who Was She? by Peter and Elizabeth lismer is also available. Pete and Liz will be coming to the Dear mad’m Symposium Saturday, October 15th, 2016 at the Yreka, Siskiyou County Historical Society this year. Thanks, Judy
I bought this book about 14 years ago and it is a favorite. I re-read it every couple of years and have given several copies as gifts. I have long wanted to find out more about Stella; the book would be even better if there were photos of the author and of the people she talked about in the book and of course of the surrounding region! My husband and I are planning a trip to Yreka and I have an interest in seeing if there are any memories of Stella in the area still?
Dear Deborah, So happy to hear that Dear mad’m is also a favorite of yours! We do hear that a great deal and are so very Grateful for Barbara Brown, of Naturegraph who kept it in print all these years!! We have gotten a scrapbook from a couple in Main last year, full of some of the people in the book and the three ladies who read the book and came to live in Happy Camp the rest of their lives.
This October 15th (Saturday) 2016, the Siskiyou County Historical Museum in Yreka, CA. Dear mad’m Symposium. More information on http://www.friendsofdearmadm.com and the Happy Camp, CA Chamber of Commerce Facebook page. Thanks, Judy
Ijust took a trip to Happy Camp, hoping to find some info on Stella. No Luck. Where is the turnout near her cabin site?
Thank you Joan!! I am sorry that you didn’t find any information on Stella who wrote Dear Mad’m. Just around the time you came we had a Dear Mad’m Day, with a picnic and took a “field-trip” to the cabin site. Unfortunately, Dave Tulled,o who was Forest Service employee at the time, going to give us a tour of where they moved the cabin-sites after her passing was called on a fire after the luncheon on the grounds at a local resort.
However, we were so blessed to have Rod and his sister Claudia who had their pictures as youngsters on the First edition of Dear Mad’m. We had a tour with Rod the following year, and this October will be having our 7th Dear mad’m Symposium, I believe it is!!
information on past Dear mad’m Sumposiums is available at http://www.friendsofdearmadm.com or the Dear mad’m facebook page.
This year we are going to have the “main event” in Yreka which is a “big town” our county seat, on Interstate 5 at the Siskiyou County Historical Museum on October 15, 2016 at 12:30. If you are able to come, we’d be delighted to show you where her cabin site was, leaving from Happy Camp which is 75 miles west of Yreka. Or call, Happy Camp Chamber of Commerce, Happy Camp, CA to make arrangements at another time.
I lived in Happy Camp in 1956. I actually lived in more than one residence there that year as a first grader. I would love to get more information about the town as it was then for my novel. Is there anyone I can contact that would be knowledgeable of that time?
Cheryl, you’re welcome to leave questions here… Judy (the editor) has a lot of information about Happy Camp history. I’m a novelist too and have written a couple novels based here.
What has happened to the follow up book Dear Mad’m,Who Was She, suppose to be published by Naturegraph fall of 2010?
Thank you for asking Pamela. We recently checked with Barbara at Narutegraph and were told that it is taking longer than expected but will be published next spring. We also have come upon another article on Stella’s life before Happy Canp and hope to publish it with photos of the area soon. Thank you for your patience!
Peter and Elizabeth Lismer’s book, Dear Mad’m who Was She? tells the story of her family, her birth , October 14, 1866, near Stockton, CA the loss of her parents, guardianship of her uncle, her education, trip to Europe, marriage to Judge Belcher and later divorce, and living on the Circle P Ranch after her marriage to James Patterson. It also includes information on the years after the book was written, as she lived on at that Mining Claim most of the time (except trips) until she passed away in Redding with Thelma (who cared for her after her heart attack) December 23, 1955 Her copies of the book arrived the day of her funeral and Thelma wrote the inscription that Stella had planned for each one. James and Stella adopted Ralph as a child when his parents died in an epidemic and they were foster parents to Thelma who “was like a daughter” to Stella. Ralph was married, had a son, and divorced and died in an accident. Hope this answers some of the basic questions that have been asked here and you can find more answers in the Lismer’s book.
I ordered Dear Mad’m as my 2nd copy. I Still love reading it as we had prospected for many years.
I first read Dear Mad’m in the 1960’s. In the 90’s I ordered my own copy. My copy was loaned out too many times and was lost in the process. Ergo the 2nd order…
Glad you are enjoying Dear Madam, Di! You may find the article on the Patterson ranch where James & Stell lived for a time on the history page of Happy Camp News. There will also be more to come as the local Chamber of Commerce is plannning an event and more this summer celebrating Stells.
Glad you are enjoying Dear Madam, Di!
You may find the article on the Patterson Ranch (where James & Stella lived for a time before she moved to the mining cabin) on the history page of Happy Camp News. There will also be more to come as the local Chamber of Commerce is plannning an event and more this summer celebrating Stellas story.
My family and I visited Happy Camp today. We live in Grants Pass, Oregon. We have all read Dear Mad’m and loved it. We are looking forward to Dear Mad’m, Who Was She?
Could someone please let us know when the Chamber of Commerce event celebrating Stellas Story will be held?
Thank you. Pat Wolff
Thank you so much on answering my question. I am looking forward to the next article on Stella’s life before Happy Camp.
Pictures are certainly a plus for us that live to far too visit…
I forgot to ask is Dear Mad’m on cassette, my Aunt is blind and 83 years young I know she would enjoy very much listening to Dear Mad’m…
It’s January 9th 2012–when will Dear Mad’m, Who Was She,
be available for purchase? I can hardly wait for it to come out–Loved Dear Mad’m–I’m going to purchase copies for all my friends and family.
Enjoyed the book tremendously – it was recommended to me by a sales clerk in Calico where I purchased the book. It’s every bit as good as she said it was.
I would like to hear more about the other people in the book, Nora, Up-n-up, Dear sir and Benji. Benji would be about 67 now and may have some memories, (if he grew up with her on the river for the next 9 years) or stories he heard from his parents. Any contact with him?
The second annual Dear Mad’m Day will be in Happy Camp, CA on October 13, 2012. That’s a Saturday. Events will start on Friday evening, October 12, and continue until Sunday afternoon. There will be a reception, dinner, book signing for Dear Mad’m: Who is She?, luncheon on Saturday with speakers and award presentations, bonfire and song circle that evening, and on Sunday, a special pancake breakfast using Stella’s menu of sourdough pancakes with blackberry syrup, and then a trip to the Dear Mad’m cabin site. Proceeds will go toward having CalTrans create an official historic marker for the site of her cabin and mining claim. I hope you can attend! For more information, see http://www.dearmadm.com
Stella was the 2nd cousin of my grandmother for whom I was named. Stella’s grandfather Madison Walthall was the oldest of a large family and went from Richmond, VA, to California by way of Mississipp. Was a captain in the Mexican War. He represented San Joaquin Co in the 1st legislature when the territory became a state (Google him.) He died after falling from his windmill near Stockton in 1868. My uncle Madison Walthall Turner moved to Orinda in 1950, and in 1960 my father moved our family to Astoria, OR, where my grandmother died in 1962. The next year we moved to Redding. I just read that Stella died in Redding in 1955. Clear Creek and Happy Camp are familiar names to me, altho I moved from California to Virginia in 1975. I just copied the Walthall Family book for 15 Walthall cousins who requested it. (Have copied for many over the years since the 1963 book was out of print.) I should expand on the book’s listing for Stella, using what I have just learned from this site. Her book was sent to me a few years ago by a Walthall cousin in Texas. My great grandfather went to visit his brother in Australia in 1911 and stopped in San Fran to visit cousins. Stella’s father Madison Walthall, Jr. died in 1873. The Madison name is from Stella’s great grandmother Catherine Madison who was a cousin of President Madison. Of all the distant cousins who contact me, I have never heard or been able to contact any descendants of Madison, nor do I have a likeness of him to add to the book. I descend from his youngest brother. His nephew Edward Cary Walthall was a general in the CSA and a U.S. Senator from Mississippi. Wish I could get to Happy Camp this summer! Grace Walthall Turner Karish, Oakton, VA
After reaching age 62 and moving into senior housing, I sort of believed my allways active life was over. Then I somehow recieved “Dear Madam”.
I grew up on the upper Rogue River in OR and had a full life in the woods, hunting fishing gathering from the wild and I knew after this book that I wasn’t ready to turn it all in! I found a new life partner and started over and fished, hunted, and even panned a bit more gold! I bought several more copies and still have 2. Loaned one out again today! I lost my partner in Jan 2011 and gave up once more, but will read it again for the 5th time and know that we pioneers don’t ever really give up!!!
Sixty six years ago Stella turned 80 when she arrived at the little mining cabin on the Klamath River to see if she could stay a year. Isn’t it amazing how inspiring and encouraging her book still is to people today!! Looking forward to seeing Dear Mad’m fans October in Happy Camp to celebrate!!
our son is now related to the family of mr Patterson. when we all visited Eureka, I bought the book and loved it.
Hear the family hopes to go to the festivities in october.
I will try to buy the new book too!
I read this after starting into college and have two copies of my very own. I love the character and the location. I live in similar circumstances in the remote NC mountains. Good Luck to Happy Camp!
Let me know when the next book is out! I love knowing anything of historical background, especially Happy Camp and Stella! THANKS FOR KEEPING THIS ALIVE.
My brother gave me this book several years ago and I have read it many times. Just today I thought about checking on
the Internet. My late husband’s family were Walthalls, but I don’t know
if thre is a connection.
Earnest Walthall lived in
Colorado when he died.
Awesome book! Teaches one how to see the world in its pure form and to appreciate the simple pleasures of life. I wish everyone in the world today acted the way they did then, with such carring and respectful mannerisms. I can’t wait to read the second version of this book and to learn more about Stella.
A friend gave me this book to read and I thoroughly enjoyed it! As a divorced senior, I recently took on a great adventure of my own- rehab a home on acreage. I can relate to Stella’s desire to take on the quest. When I lived in Medford, our family spent some great times exploring Happy Camp.
My grandparents lived along Highway 96 and I spent all my summers at their home in Clear Creek – Happy Camp. Mr. Crooks and Frenchie knew my grandfather. I miss these wonderful times. I know Happy Camp has changed since the 1970’s. I hope to visit one day.
Hello, I bought my precious copy of Dear Mad’m about 25years ago in a second hand book shop in Keswick, in the English Lake District. It is 64 years old, my age now, so pleased it was published the year I was born. I love the book so much & have just finished re-reading it again. I’m so glad I Googled it & found this site. I notice it’s several years since there’s been any news on it & hope you still exist. I live in Jarrow, a town in North East England, so no hope of ever visiting Happy Camp or any other beautiful places in the Klamath forest. It’s a wonderful story of a life we can only dream of, especially at this time of Coronavirus sadness & uncertainty.
Kind Regards Jacqui